First time with sex toys
By Fable & Femme
Hands are always enough. Sex toys are optional tools, not necessities. If you are curious about introducing toys, the key is to start simply and go at your own pace.
Choosing Your First Toy
For beginners, look for:
- Body-safe materials such as medical-grade silicone
- Simple designs with minimal settings
- Toys intended for external use
Avoid porous materials and novelty products that do not clearly state body-safe standards.
How to Use a Toy for the First Time
When trying a toy for the first time:
- Read the instructions fully
- Start on the lowest setting
- Use externally until you feel confident
- Apply water-based lubricant if desired
You do not need to replicate anything you have seen or heard about. Focus on what feels comfortable and pleasant for you.
Hygiene and Safety
Proper care keeps toys safe and enjoyable to use.
- Clean toys before and after use with warm water and mild, unscented soap
- Allow them to dry fully before storing
- Store toys separately to avoid material reactions
- Do not share toys without proper protection and cleaning
Good hygiene is part of self-care.
Emotional Aftercare
After masturbation, you may feel relaxed, energised, emotional, or sleepy. All responses are normal.
Gentle aftercare might include:
- Resting quietly
- Drinking water
- Wrapping yourself in something cosy
- Acknowledging the experience without judgement
Pleasure can be both physical and emotional.
Final Thoughts from Fable & Femme
Exploring your body is not selfish.
Wanting pleasure is not shallow.
Curiosity about yourself is healthy and human.
Masturbation is simply one way to build trust and connection with your own body, on your own terms and in your own time.
Unapologetically yours,
Fable & Femme
Evidence-Based References
APA Style
American Psychological Association. (2023). Masturbation. https://www.apa.org
Herbenick, D., Fu, T. C., Arter, J., Sanders, S. A., Dodge, B., & Fortenberry, J. D. (2018). Women’s experiences with genital touching, sexual pleasure, and orgasm. Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, 44(2), 201-212.
Meston, C. M., & Buss, D. M. (2007). Why humans have sex. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 36(4), 477-507.
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